Stop the Insane Consequences! Use Logical Consequences

You know what frustrates me?

When parents and coaches use illogical consequences.

Here’s some examples:
😤 having your child do 100 push ups because they didn’t clean their room

😤 putting two of your children in an oversized t-shirt because they can’t get along

😤 grounding your teen for an extended period of time (think anything over a week) because they came home past curfew

😤 making your team run a nine for every missed free throw during a game

These consequences don’t work at getting the child (athletes) to do the behavior you want them to do. And it dings the relationship!

Use logical consequences instead.

Logical consequences are:
🤩 Relevant: the consequence directly helps the child learn HOW TO do the specific behavior

🤩 Respectful: dole out the consequence in a cool, calm and collected manner. We do not shame them (posting your child doing your illogical consequence on social media is shaming)

🤩 Reasonable: make it “sting” enough to teach, but don’t go overboard

🤩 Revealed in Advance: tell the child ahead of time what the consequence will be if they do the specific behavior

Examples of logical consequences:
👊 having a child clean up a mess they made, this includes when they have a toilet training accident

👊 giving your children an activity where they have to work together to accomplish a common goal

👊 for every minute a teen arrives past curfew, that’s 10 minutes cut from their curfew the next time they go out

👊 having athletes shoot ten free throws for every free throw they missed in a game

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